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Here I post articles and practical exercises for couples who wish to improve their marriage or relationship.
How To Make Love Last In The Age Of The Coronavirus and Telecommuting
It used to be that work took place in the office from nine to five. Outside those hours, your time was your own – for relationships, family, relaxation, and play. Oh, how the times have changed. The proliferation of technology into every aspect of our lives and, most...
Are You Or Your Partner Responsible For Your Happiness?
Once upon a time, I went through a very painful divorce. It was so easy to blame my spouse for my unhappiness. After all, he cracked open our family on a sunny afternoon and started another one. Just like that. Lately, I have been speaking to a number of clients...
Valentine’s Day Is About Love, Not Lovers
When you think of Valentine’s Day, I’ll wager you think of red roses, chocolates and heartfelt cards. Today, Valentine’s Day means BIG business for card, candy and flower companies. Although Valentine’s Day has become commercialized for lovers, it should be a time to...
What Can We Commoners Learn About Strong Marriages From The Royals?
Plenty. Prince Harry and Duchess Meghan announced last week that they are stepping back from their roles as senior members of the British Royal family. Your grandma may not be the Queen, but I am confident that many of you can relate to Meghan’s and Harry’s family...
Couples Beware. January is considered breakup month
According to a recent article in the New York Times, January has been unofficially dubbed “divorce month.” While this may not be the most cheerful way to ring in the new year, the fact is that many struggling couples are prompted to consider divorce/breakup as part of...
How Can I Improve My Love Relationship in 2020?
New Year’s Tips To Reboot Your Romantic Relationship New Year’s is just around the corner and it’s time to think about the resolutions and changes you would like to make in your romantic relationships so that they are stronger and more secure than ever. According to...
Should you consider counseling with Dr. Deb Hecker?
MAYBE YES, MAYBE NO. In my experience, consulting with clients who are considering whether or not to pursue counseling with me to improve their lives, the path to this decision is as varied as the people who travel down it. Could be they would like their relationships...
Radical Acts of Kindness
Tis’ the season to get into the holiday spirit. Sadly, this can also be a stressful time of year, figuring out the perfect gift to buy your partner and worrying about spending money. However, kindness toward your partner requires very little time, money or hard work -...
Answer these 5 questions after your break-up and you’ll heal faster
The failure of a relationship closes one chapter of your life and starts a new one
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