INSIGHTS
ROLLING OUT THE DEAR DR. DEB ADVICE COLUMN
Dear Dr. Deb. As a psychoanalyst and psychotherapist specializing in interpersonal relationships, it makes sense that people who are struggling would seek out my professional services – especially when they are hurting. Through my decades of experience, I’ve...
NEW WEBSITE LAUNCH
My newly designed website, relationshipsshrink.com, is here! For the new site, I chose a less-is-more design approach in order to highlight the rationale for the site, how you can benefit from my offerings, and my core message: Relationships Matter. As human beings,...
MOTHER’S DAY – IS EVERY DAY
If you ask people what their favorite holiday is, the answers range from Thanksgiving, to Christmas, to their birthdays. I have never heard anyone respond with “My favorite holiday is Mother’s Day.” Honestly, Everyday should be Mother’s Day. I cannot think of a more...
CAN WE AGREE TO DISAGREE ON THE SLAP HEARD AROUND THE WORLD?
First, let me begin with what I believe we can agree on – that everyone was shocked at this year’s Oscars when actor, Will Smith, slapped comedian, Chris Rock, one of the show’s award presenters, in response to a “joke” Rock made about Smith’s wife, Jada Pinkett...
Self Reflection in Relationships
Introduction Most people are inclined to believe that their relationships fail or have problems because they didn’t choose the right partner or because their partner is the source of the stress. It can feel so much better to look for accountability outside of yourself...
TRIBUTE TO MY GIRL, SAVY
Savy and I were finishing up our last walk of the day one evening last week when I tripped and fell. I dropped her leash, which scared her, and she ran off. Typically, she would come when I called her name, but not this time. She was frightened. Savy was hit in...
Self-Talk and Why It Matters
If you’re worried this habit is a little strange, you can rest easy because talking to yourself is perfectly normal. During a recent consultation, I asked a patient her opinion of a work situation that she was trying to solve, and her response was the following: How...
Depression during the holiday season
Though the holidays are thought of as a time of sharing, family, and celebration, for many they are emotionally exhausting. If you feel knocked down by sadness during this holiday season, you’re not alone. Between polarized politics and the continuing global...
How To Find The Sweet Spot Between Closeness And Separateness In Your Romantic Relationship?
Many people equate relationship commitment with a loss of freedom and a kind of bondage. It doesn’t have to be that way. If you have any questions, click here to schedule your initial consult. Warmly, Deb
Why Romantic Relationships Are SO Complicated
When I was young, I thought of romantic relationships as very simple - you either love him / her or you don’t. The truth is that human beings are complex and life is sometimes crazy, and that combination can make romantic relationships tricky, perplexing, and...
Rewards Of Helping Others
Helping others is not only good for them and a good thing to do, it also makes us happier and healthier.
Prioritizing Our Mental Health
Two recent events have caused me to think that if ever there was a time to promote the importance of minding our mental health and our need for self-care, this is it. First, it’s impossible to ignore the emergence of coronavirus and the resulting uncertainties we are...