by Dr. Deborah Hecker | Sep 12, 2018 | Relationships
Your divorce has thrown you into a very lonely place full of conflicted feelings of rejection and longing, love and hate, remorse and rage, not to mention sadness and relief. While you used to have a counterpart to help you through hard times, now you are on your own...
by Dr. Deborah Hecker | Sep 12, 2018 | Relationships
In my clinical practice, a very common reaction to the loss of a partner is “I don’t know who I am anymore.” Sound familiar? One of my clients aptly referred to his post-divorce aloneness as the “panic of the I.” He compared his feelings to those of a toddler who...
by Dr. Deborah Hecker | Sep 11, 2018 | Relationships
As part of my professional training, I spent many years studying psychoanalytic theory and technique. In short, my job was to help my clients examine past relationships for the purpose of understanding their present ones. The goal of the therapy was to develop...
by Dr. Deborah Hecker | Sep 11, 2018 | Relationships
Would You Know If You Were In A Dysfunctional Relationship? Definition The terms “toxic,” “dysfunctional,” and “codependent” are used to describe relationships that are not working. Although experts decipher differences in their meanings, the terms are often used...
by Dr. Deborah Hecker | Sep 11, 2018 | Intimacy, Relationships
A boundary is something that marks a limit. Think of psychological boundaries as guidelines that preserve your individuality from your partner’s. They comprise your uniqueness – your history, experiences, interests, personality, and values….your “you-ness.” Setting...
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