by Dr. Deborah Hecker | Sep 12, 2018 | Relationships
In my clinical practice, a very common reaction to the loss of a partner is “I don’t know who I am anymore.” Sound familiar? One of my clients aptly referred to his post-divorce aloneness as the “panic of the I.” He compared his feelings to those of a toddler who...
by Dr. Deborah Hecker | Sep 11, 2018 | Relationships
As part of my professional training, I spent many years studying psychoanalytic theory and technique. In short, my job was to help my clients examine past relationships for the purpose of understanding their present ones. The goal of the therapy was to develop...
by Dr. Deborah Hecker | Sep 11, 2018 | Relationships
Would You Know If You Were In A Dysfunctional Relationship? Definition The terms “toxic,” “dysfunctional,” and “codependent” are used to describe relationships that are not working. Although experts decipher differences in their meanings, the terms are often used...
by Dr. Deborah Hecker | Sep 11, 2018 | Intimacy, Relationships
A boundary is something that marks a limit. Think of psychological boundaries as guidelines that preserve your individuality from your partner’s. They comprise your uniqueness – your history, experiences, interests, personality, and values….your “you-ness.” Setting...
by Dr. Deborah Hecker | Sep 11, 2018 | Relationships
Introduction People are always asking me “How can I can make room for both my needs and my partner’s needs in our relationship?” They go on to say that, more often than not, one or the other gets their way, which inevitably leads to resentments. What they...
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