In a recent session, one of my patients said something that many of us, not just therapists, have heard many times: “We love each other, but…” It’s not hard to imagine the statements that follow the “but.” In my patient’s case they were: We can’t help poking each...

Many of you have asked me how to cope with the pain of marital separation and the impending possibility of divorce. Without question, marital separation and divorce are among the toughest life experiences. The good news is that there are ways to manage the loss and...

Dear Dr. Deb. As a psychoanalyst and psychotherapist specializing in interpersonal relationships, it makes sense that people who are struggling would seek out my professional services – especially when they are hurting.  Through my decades of experience, I’ve...