INSIGHTS
Hope: My Gift To You In 2021
Introduction Years ago, I lost my ability to hope. I had sustained a major loss, and the pain seemed unmanageable. I waited and waited, hoping the agony would evaporate. Just at the point where I could see no way out, I looked up at the blue sky and saw Hope. The sky...
The Pandemic Thanksgiving
I think most of us can agree that 2020 has been a year we won’t look back on fondly. Rather, it’s a year that we’re all collectively just trying to get through. Our lives are different, internally and externally, due to the devastation of the pandemic. If you are...
The Art of Listening
Introduction One would profoundly hope that the Coronavirus, a killer disease, would “bring us together” as a nation. Instead, it has served less to unite us than to underscore what divides us. Reading daily about this deepening, widespread national polarization has...
Panic And Stress Of The Pandemic
Introduction I just finished a session with a client who is very caught up in the panic and stress of the pandemic and the uncertainty of the world around us. Listen, I get it. Life is tough right now. We’re all taking a beating and it’s hard not to wallow in these...
Most Important Ingredient of a Successful Relationship
Introduction If I were to ask you to name the single most important factor that you believe contributes to a rewarding and successful romantic relationship, you might well argue that empathy, communication, trust, or perhaps sex is the most essential. While these,...
What Do Ruth Bader Ginsburg, A Marriage of Equals and COVID 19 Have In Common?
PLENTY, IT TURNS OUT. Justice Ginsburg spent her life building a world in which women and men were on equal footing, at home, in their personal relationships, and well beyond. With the Covid 19 pandemic alive and well, and no end in sight, the battle for gender...
How Do We Combat Acedia Lodged Inside Us?
If your emotions feel like a rollercoaster because of Covid 19, you’re not alone. In my practice I’ve seen everything from people shutting down and having no motivation or feeling tired, restless, worried, sad, overwhelmed, exhausted or angry, not to mention being...
Losing Motivation To Be Cautious During The Pandemic?
Introduction Ever since Michelle Obama gave us permission to feel depressed about the pandemic and the state of our Nation, I have allowed myself to feel that not only am I down and out about our country’s state of affairs, but if I am brutally honest, I am lacking...
The Secret To Happiness Is Helping Others
Recently, after spending more time than I care to admit feeling angry, lonely and oh so sorry for myself because of being isolated from friends and family due to the pandemic, I decided I had better change my way of thinking and feeling and consider how to transform...
How To Improve Your Attachment Style To Your Romantic Partner
Introduction As humans, we are social beings and are wired for attachment. Our bond with our parents or caregiver creates an “attachment style” – a kind of blueprint for how we handle close relationships later in life. As adults, we seek or avoid intimacy along a...
Couples Under Quarantine
If you are going to weather the Covid crisis, your relationship cannot be in crisis too. With lockdown measures in place due to the spread of Covid 19, you may be spending more time with your partner than ever before. Yes, there’s a good chance you might be getting on...
Father’s Day: Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters
Introduction On Sunday, June 21, dads across the United States are going to be showered with neckties, toolsets, after shave lotion, and gift cards as we celebrate Father’s Day, a holiday often thought of as an excuse to thank fathers for their love and dedication....