“It shouldn’t be that complicated,” is a comment I hear frequently from struggling couples I work with, referring to marriage.  But the reality is, marriage and romantic partnerships are very messy and complicated. Think about it, when you share a living space with...

Dear Followers, The world’s longest scientific study of happiness, conducted by Harvard researchers, shows that strong relationships keep us healthier and happier. This references all types of relationships – friends, family, romantic, work colleagues – regardless of...

Most days, I feel like I’ve seen and heard all there is to know when it comes to relationships. I have been a therapist for decades, after all.  Then there are days that completely turn me around and remind me there’s still room for awe and surprise. One of my female...

Today’s Advice Highlights How does a relationship become dysfunctional? What are the common red flags to watch out for? Is calling it quits the best course of action to recover from a toxic relationship? When we start a new relationship, we put most of our attention...

In a recent session, one of my patients said something that many of us, not just therapists, have heard many times: “We love each other, but…” It’s not hard to imagine the statements that follow the “but.” In my patient’s case they were: We can’t help poking each...

Dear Dr. Deb. As a psychoanalyst and psychotherapist specializing in interpersonal relationships, it makes sense that people who are struggling would seek out my professional services – especially when they are hurting.  Through my decades of experience, I’ve...

Introduction Most people are inclined to believe that their relationships fail or have problems because they didn’t choose the right partner or because their partner is the source of the stress. It can feel so much better to look for accountability outside of yourself...

Though the holidays are thought of as a time of sharing, family, and celebration, for many they are emotionally exhausting. If you feel knocked down by sadness during this holiday season, you’re not alone. Between polarized politics and the continuing global...

  Many people equate relationship commitment with a loss of freedom and a kind of bondage.  It doesn’t have to be that way. If you have any questions, click here to schedule your initial consult. Warmly, Deb