Articles & Resources

The Need to Advocate for Children of Divorce Introduction With the recent publication of Mike Mastracci’s excellent book Stop Fighting Over the Kids; Resolving Day-to-Day Custody Conflict in Divorce Situations, I found myself focused on the overwhelming struggles that...

When it comes to choosing a divorce attorney, I have heard people say, “I want the meanest, toughest attorney I can find. I need a fighter, someone who’ll take out that shark my spouse hired.” That attitude always makes me shudder. A talented attorney doesn’t have to...

The Unique Complexity Of Working With Divorcing Clients: Emotions On The Edge When clients seek out the help of the Collaborative team, it is at a time of deep emotional trouble, a time when most feel they have lost their center of gravity. As such, working with...

Divorce doesn’t end when the papers are signed, so why does the job of the Collaborative divorce professional? While we provide an invaluable service to our clients, some of the most challenging aspects of divorce appear after the process is completed. Anyone going...

Simple But Important Tools To Help Make A Bad Relationship Better Introduction When I was going through my divorce, my Dad, a corporate attorney, told me the following; “Everybody wins and everybody loses.” At the time, I was too caught up in the war to be able to...

Let’s talk money – a core concern of any divorce experience Let’s talk money – a core concern of any divorce experience. Most of us tend to think about money in terms of dollars and cents; about making the “right” financial choices. Money, however, is a much more...

Let's Consider The “Emotional” Divorce Many, if not most, of the clients seen by a family law attorney manifest a high degree of anxiety. This anxiety (which can present in a variety of ways) can interfere with the attorney’s ability to concentrate on the legal...

Redefining Collaborative Divorce: Is There More We Can Do To Help Our Clients Grow and Heal? Many of us try to resolve relationship conflicts by demanding an overhaul of our partners. Why? Often, we define the problem in terms of the other person: “I have problems...